Fighting for the Last Word
I have written on Mercury retrograde many times and as you know, we are coming to the end of a Mercury retrograde in Cancer transit on the weekend (July 20th). We can proverbially see the light at the end of the tunnel. However I want to emphasize (here comes another cliché) that when it does we are not out of the woods — yet.
Under this retrograde, which began June 26, you have likely experienced that Mercury-ruled Gemini and Virgo people and Moon-ruled Cancer people have been challenging. People have been fighting for the last word. Have some sympathy because Mercury retrograde periods truly make life a little harder for Gemini and Virgo people. Cancer people have been crabby, cranky and moody during this particular period because the Mercury retrograde is in the sign of Cancer.
A Mercury Retrograde Story
Under Mercury retrograde there are delays, distractions, things get lost, signing contracts and buying new thing is not a wise idea. The contract typically turns out to have problems and the deal gets broken or if you shop, the new item you get must usually be returned (they break or are the wrong thing or do not fit). I remember the time I bought a 3-door closet from IKEA in the pre-retrograde shadow of Mercury. Unlike with any IKEA purchase I had ever made, I had to return to the store twice to get missing parts and then when it was assembled, a piece of the sidewall fell out, exposing a screw and I learned yet another important part, a brace to hold it to the wall, was missing. All IKEA would say to me was that it was all my fault. I acknowledged that I knowingly bought it three days before Mercury retrograde and I knew I would end up throwing it away. Without regret, that is just what I did when I moved.
This last week of the Mercury retrograde in Cancer and just beyond it, in the post-retrograde shadow, things will still be pressurized. Mercury retrograde in Cancer means emotions are disturbed, disturbing, confusing, at the breaking point (oversensitive) and difficult to express. Under Mercury retrograde in Cancer people want what they want, they want it now and they cannot explain why they want it – they only know from their gut that they do.
Mercury Retrograde in Cancer Joins The Cardinal Fray
The Mercury retrogade in Cancer will be at 13 degrees, in a temporary Cardinal T-Square with Uranus in Aries and Pluto in Capricorn, which are squaring each other. It will take Mercury 3 days to clear itself of this angry fight for control — so look for things to clear up July 23rd or soon after that date.
In the meantime, do not be surprised if suddenly there is an unexpected communication abut something involving security (delayed perhaps by Mercury retrograde in Cancer) that has been fought hard against by corrupt authorities/people with positions of power who do not want to give up power or be exposed for wrongdoing (Pluto in Capricorn) and which is now about to about to be angrily exploded (Uranus in Aries).
The best way to handle yourself between July 15-23 so that you do not get exasperated, shocked and frustrated, is to
- be diplomatic
- pick your battles
- lower your expectations
- avoid ultimatums
You will notice that the first step is to be diplomatic. That is Libra energy, the “missing leg” of a Cardinal Grand Cross. It is a key to relieving a pressurized situation. You can also use Jupiter in Cancer energy to keep an attitude of gratitude about all the blessings all the positive things in your life during July 15-23.
Do not talk simply to add to the hot air. Just do it. When it comes to anything. Do not talk about it or threaten it. Avoid people who irritate you and if you find yourself in an irritating situation, ask the other person to hold that thought and you will be back in a moment. Then walk out of the room and stay out of the room for 10 minutes. List 10 things for which you can be grateful. Think about 10 more if need be. Do you have a gratitude rock in your pocket or purse you can use to focus your thoughts? Can you find some compassion for yourself and a little more for the other person who is clearly having a challenging time? Use that. When you return to the room, enter smiling. Maybe you do not need to pick up the conversation, but if you do, be diplomatic in your words. A response like “I will get back to you on that” or “I will come back after (the 23rd), or something similar will bring time to step back and breathe. Employing the law of attraction (“The Secret”) will get you through this time.