If you have natal Venus in the 12th house you have a compassionate, sympathetic and loving nature, but it may be nearly invisible to others. They may even think you are so “strong” that you do not have the sensitivities of other people and do or say things that are very painful to you.
The child with Venus in the 12th is typically discouraged from thinking they are beautiful and it can go so far as the child being ignored, disregarded or overlooked. Such a child is usually very lonely, shy, and vulnerable and spends a lot of time alone. This feeling of loneliness and being cut off from others often carries into adulthood
This placement also is one that can manifest as you feeling compelled to sacrifice your desires and give too much of yourself in exchange for validation from other people – a “people-pleaser”. This can lead to your attracting very needy or demanding people. In a romantic relationship, this can manifest as an addictive or enabling personality and you may attract unstable or addictive partners.
Because of this subconscious need for love and validation, you have trouble defining and maintain your boundaries. Your challenge in relationships is knowing where you end and your partner begins, and making it clear to your partner. You are attracted to romantic partners with quirky personalities and backgrounds different than yours. At the same time you get hurt rather easily and it s not uncommon for people who are aloof and “cool” to be very attracted to you because you seem like you are holding a secret, but they are not good at interacting with you on a deeper level the way you require.
Your most dangerous but common path is to fall for the unavailable partner. This is the person who for some reason wants you to be in a relationship with them where you are taken advantage of through the relationship being secret. This secret affair can go on for years and then when the other person is done with you, they publicly date and marry someone else! In some cases they are publicly dating/married to someone else WHILE they are secretly sleeping with you.
Venus symbolizes pleasures in life that goes beyond sex and love, such as good food, sugar, luxury. With Venus in the 12th house you could have secret binges on food, candy, shopping and the like. You also become very attached to your personal belongings and have a hard time sharing or suffer deeply when things are taken from you.
How you can evolve through your 12th house is by helping the poor and those who are suffering in society, through institutions related to the penal system, social work and charitable institutions such as hospitals and religious organizations. In a marriage you could opt for learning equal conflict resolution skills.
You also have a tendency to attract lovers who want you to keep your relationship secret, or you may find to your shock and dismay that they have been hiding you from people they know, or the possibility of the two of you being photographed or otherwise seen in public.
Love and sacrifice often seem to go hand in hand for you – having to give something up to be with the one you love, or having to relinquish some person or some aspect of an important love relationship. You value a certain amount of self-sacrifice and a giving attitude in a partner, as you embody these traits. You can be quite mysterious to others, even if you don’t mean to be, because your romantic needs are kept hidden. Be certain that you are not, in some way, punishing yourself because you don’t feel worthy of an equal and public relationship.
You ARE worthy of a public and equal relationship and you must tell yourself that every day and make sure others know it!
