The Aquarius Man

The Aquarius Man

Many of you readers have written me asking for more information on the sign of Aquarius and in particular on Aquarius men. I suspect it is the influence of Neptune transiting the constellation Aquarius and seeking clarity that is bringing forth calls for understanding of the inner workings and outward behaviors of Aquarius men. Remember, you CAN find love no matter what your sign. Arrange an astrology  consultation with me on your love life and I will help you see the open door and the key to making things work. Please feel free to post any questions or thoughts you have. And so, by popular request….

The Social Butterfly

The Aquarius male is a seemingly unconventional and innovative flirt who can charm those around him. Liking to surprise others, he is unhappy if he feels his freedom is being diminished. He believes his way of doing anything is the most superior way. His ego is not out in the open like a Leo, but it is as big as that of a Leo. He can be very argumentative, liking to debate things or fabricate WILD untrue stories just to irritate others and to show off what he believes to be his superior intellect. The best strategy, most times, is to laughingly feign belief in and shock at his wild story and go along with it, asking questions etc. The Aquarius male enjoys social interaction and like to be known for impressing groups of people for a good cause, thus a partner who also has these capabilities, is desired.

Appearing to be an open-minded person, he can be willing to explore unlimited horizons within limit, so long as it fits his idea of fairness or does not make him stand out in a negative way in his community.

**DANGER** But remember this: in any relationship with an unevolved and immature Aquarius male, he can coolly and quickly sacrifice your name and reputation or let you suffer in some way if he thinks standing by your side will make the public at large dislike him. Yes, he can throw you to the wolves. A lack of compassion and empathy for other people comes naturally to the Aquarius male and he may believe it to be be “logical” to treat you this way to preserve or protect himself.

The Aquarius male is very obstinate and will hold to a position or opinion unless he 1) is confronted with the fact that it is unfair or inhumane or 2) realizes he is being unfair or inhumane. Sometimes he merely likes to see if he can “wind up” someone by resisting whatever they ask.

He has trouble coping with individual relationships because they require him to be authentic on a deep level. He is a great social butterfly and loves a party where he can eat, drink and be merry on a superficial level. If lacking in maturity, he may be so unconscious of his behavior that he gets himself mentally wound up in fear of being alone with you and show up an hour or more late to meet you, and then only to cancel. Let him…and then do not make another appointment with him nor allow him to make one unless he states upfront that he will make the time for it.

The Charming Liar

Due to innate insecurities and fears of not being competent, loved and accepted, they maintain a wall of defense, not allowing even someone they like or love to get too close. In close relationships, conflicts naturally occur – but this closeness does not get to occur with the Aquarius male. He would rather make a joke of things and begin talking about another topic to escape dealing with any topic which may cause emotions to be expressed. He will label emotional expression as “illogical”, “unnecessary” and “irrational”. He commonly will label YOU as “illogical”, “irrational” or “unreasonable” for expressing emotions. He is then likely to walk out of the room and refuse to discuss the topic at hand.

When he is angry, the Aquarius male will not yell or otherwise obviously show it. Instead, he will become very MEAN and say mean/cruel things that he knows or thinks will hurt you, with a glib smile. Then he will airily say he needs to go, and leave the room or hang up the telephone. He is also quite capable of doing something very mean to you out of anger.Aquarius males like to talk about honesty and truth but it is always their truth and their version of honesty that is important. They can be quick to label you as dishonest or say that you do not know or speak the truth. This is also because they are by nature distrustful. This also means you must be wary of the Aquarius penchant for lying—lying done with a glib smile and intellectual air.

The Spotlight Seeker

It is when you are an outstanding (prominent or unusual) individual that he will notice you. He will want to hitch his wagon to your star. The Aquarius male likes to collect “friends” who he may call friends but even after many years are only acquaintances, even if he accompanies them on short trips or camping, picnics with them, lets them stay in his home or has dinner with them once a month or so. He is merely being sociable. He prefers being alone in his home with his quirks that he thinks others will not accept from him. If he likes you, you are one of the MANY people he has generally befriended and that is not necessarily a bad thing as he can make such people feel they are receiving special attention from him.

Physical Appearance

This man typically is not classically attractive but can be, as in actor Paul Newman. But, if he has strong Aquarius energy or an Aquarius Ascendant, he can have bucked, crooked and broken teeth, a large nose with a bump in it, droopy eyelids/sleepy eyes, and a long neck and a long face like Ichabod Crane and this quirky physical appearance will somehow be somewhat attractive. It will be especially attractive, of course, to a woman who has a tendency to fall for unusual looking men. As with all Aquarius’ they need to watch out for injuries to the calves and ankles.


Aquarius Men and Relationships (Does He Like/Love You?)

The Aquarius male knows clearly who he is NOT attracted to and would never consider as a marriage partner. If the Aquarius male DOES NOT like you romantically and you persist in trying to get into his life, do not be surprised if his rejection is so cold and clear you can feel the icicles forming on your face.

This is what happened to one Leo woman who spent five years trying to manipulate heaven, earth, and many people, all in an attempt to coerce an Aquarius male into marriage. She based their relationship on gossiping, maligning, criticizing and doing devious acts of harassment to a woman the Aquarius male shied away from. After nearly five years of this behavior, Ms. Leo made yet another annual trip to the city where Mr. Aquarius lived, in hopes of marriage. She was turning 30 and feeling desperate about marriage and hoped he would start dating her and marry her. She got the shock and humiliation of her life because Mr. Aquarius decided enough was enough. He knew all along Ms. Leo was not the kind of woman he wanted to be connected to as a partner, nor did he want to introduce her to his family. He coldly and clearly told her that he would never date her and never marry her. The biggest shocker was that Mr. Aquarius let Ms. Leo know that the woman she had been maligning and harassing all those years was the woman who had had his mind and heart the entire time!

Here is the key Aquarius male trait, especially where it concerns women: he behaves in the exact opposite way that he is feeling inside. You see it is when the Aquarius male likes you way too much (as in, falling in love with you) that he has noticed you clearly and separated you from the crowd in his mind and heart. This means he has found you to be intellectually, emotionally (!!) and physically someone he desires.

Does this mean the Aquarius male will romance you? Not naturally!! In fact, because he has fallen in love with you he will likely cancel or forget or show up ridiculously late for appointments you have made for 1-1 activities (such as dinner). He will prefer public and group gatherings and at those he is prone to ignore you, not talk to you yet talk to everyone else, flirt with other women, and he is likely to tell his male buddies reasons why he does not trust you, and why he seemingly avoids you. But when no one else is looking, he is watching YOU at the party or other social event. He is collecting information on what significant people think of you. If you are a woman who is extroverted, gregarious, smiling, popular, intelligent and attractive (especially if you are of a different ethnicity, nationality, unusual in dress or appearance etc) he is following you around the room and at other times he has his ears open for any news about you. He is filing it all away in his mind because he wants to be able to “surprise” you with all the information he has gathered about you.

However, this is not a two-way street with the Aquarius male. He likes to “know” you but does not want you to know him or anything about him. If you let him know that you know anything about him he will make jokes, laugh, deny, and change the subject, especially desiring to turn it back to a discussion about you and what he thinks he “knows” about you.

In intimate relationships, they are not very intimate. Aquarius males are great with the future and progressive thinking, but not so good the past. This is because 99% of Aquarius males have a paternal (father) situation where their father was absent from home a lot, abusive, alcoholic or a drug addict, commonly known for having sexual affairs and a cold, empty marriage with the mother, and as a result the Aquarius male never received guidance and instruction on being a warm and loving man in general and especially not with a woman. They feel “different”, sometimes to the point of weirdness and other times to the point of egoism (superiority). At the base of it is deep insecurity and fear at not being competent, loved and not being accepted. He grows up feeling inside that he cannot express himself in an intimate loving relationship with another individual…so he opts for focusing on the masses.

Because of his fear of intimacy in a 1-1 relationship with a woman, the Aquarius male is very likely to move his girlfriend or family to a foreign country where he has social and professional advantage and can spend more time in the company of others than with her; OR he may look for or create a job in another country so that he is not home very often. It would not be unlikely for him to justify having sexual affairs while he is working overseas. It is not uncommon to find a marriage involving an Aquarius husband where the wife only sees him a few days a month to attend a cocktail party or a Sunday family dinner (to keep up appearances!)

Sex and the Aquarius Man

It is not usual to find an Aquarius man in his 30s who, despite all his “man about town” charm is a sexual virgin, and well, emotionally too! Often they are a “mama’s boys”, still married to his mother in his 30s and 40s, content to avoid relationships with women because he gets sustenance from his mother. He resists getting intimate because he has reached adulthood and doesn’t know what to do sexually. His big ego doesn’t want to risk being criticized or laughed at during an attempt at sexual intimacy, so he would rather put it off as long as possible. He also seeks to avoid having to be emotionally intimate, which is a part of satisfying lovemaking so it will be challenging for the two of you.

Undergirding that, he isn’t necessarily out to do a “wham bam thank you ma’am” and hurt you. He simply, at 34, is more like a 14 year-old boy who would rather coldly suppress his sexual desire for a woman have a sex life consisting solely of masturbation, rather than risk what he fears could be could be humiliation. Thus, when he does finally overcome fear and connect with a woman emotionally and sexually, it is a serious commitment to him.

The Sexual Intellectual and Experimenter

The Aquarius male tends to approach sex intellectually. His curiosity can become a relationship-destroying fascination with or addiction to pornography.

He is awkward and uncomfortable about expressing his love through physical gestures. Actual physical sex may not occur for a very long time in a relationship with an Aquarius male. He likes to talk about fantasies and desires and share thoughts with a lover. He is inherently curious and so when sex finally occurs, he likes to experiment creatively between the sheets. They appreciate a confident sex partner.

Dating, Marriage and Divorce

When an Aquarius man ignores you, ignore him in return. He will get the message that if he wants to connect with you he must be mature and fair by acknowledging and talking with you. At that point, if you want to deal with this man any more, explain to him privately that he needs to relate to you in a human and warm manner and lower his guard.

He is in his head often and spends a lot of time alone. When there is a conflict or potential for one he can run away, or at least say he needs to go for a (long…hours long) walk or ride alone. Let him know this is not acceptable and that he must deal the relationship more than run away. Some solitude is fine but not every time there is something to be discussed (usually his behavior).

The Aquarius man can be particularly emotionally cold, verbally mean and quite selfish. They will quickly and cheerfully do something for others, as long as it has no impact on their life. If still very stuck in their ego and immature, they will strongly resist doing anything to help another person if it will mean a sacrifice of time, money or emotional commitment. This emotional abandonment can leave any woman he is in a relationship with feeling rather uncared for and she is likely to leave the Aquarius – which typically baffles the unevolved Aquarius male.

When he has become mature and evolved, the Aquarius man can move beyond these childish habits and be a superior intimate who is very committed (Aquarius is fixed energy). He will still ignore a woman he likes, at first, because he is shocked that he could care for one woman above all others. But once he lets his guard down, he will be an extremely considerate lover and best friend.

The Aquarius Male as Family Man

As a family man, Aquarius men tend, much like Leo males, to put great pride in the family and want it to appear healthy and happy to the world. This can be read as a tendency to want a traditional family life. They want sparkling, intelligent, industrious and socially graceful wives; healthy, happy, smart, productive children,  and a home life that is secure and warm. You know a group of lions is call a “pride”, right? They tend to marry women with leonine characteristic, warm-hearted and generous, equally as proud of spouse, children and very protective of home, hearth and the family image. As fathers, most Aquarius males are patient with their children and encourage them to play and fantasize. They are particularly excellent at helping their children with mathematics and science homework.

The Aquarius man will be very reluctant to say so but in large part he married you so that he could have you around him all the time, loving and caring for him. He loves you, too, and if he is  a smart man he will ask you how to show it to you and then follow through, so that you do not leave him due to coldness. Tell him he must start saying “I love you (Your Name Here)” aloud, even in public.

An Aquarius man seldom forgets his first love, the female who makes him feel special. Unless he has learned to embrace his warm (polar sign) Leo energy, he may not be so romantic, but every now and then, he comes up with such beautiful lines that you feel as if you are soaring in the sky. He will do the things that you tell him make you happy because he wants to see his wife smile and be joyful. Having a proud, happy and warm lioness around makes him a proud and happy man and gives him a place to express the emotions he needs to detach from in the outside world. His life becomes BALANCED.

He may fuss about celebrating his birthday, but he will get you red roses and jewelry on Valentine’s Day, find out your favorite flower and have a dozen delivered on your birthday and he will embrace your family. He will be ready for all the family holiday occasions with their meals, noise and general craziness.  In the quiet of your alone time, or holding you close at a party and whispering in your ear, he will say something so meaningful to you that you can excuse his earlier neglect (remember his charm?).

The Women Aquarius Men Desire

The women that Aquarius men desire are complex, mysterious, unusual, intelligent, and usually very caring and emotionally warm (in opposition to him!!) even if cool on the outside. She must be a woman who is a fighter and can hold her ground. He may outwardly claim that he likes women who are unobtrusive, blend in with the crowd and everyone likes them, but in reality he likes the outstanding, feisty, dramatic woman whose inner life is a mystery, whose motives and moves are complex and mysterious and who cannot be controlled and tamed. This is also the woman with whom he will compete because he likes challenges with her, even though he innately feels he is dominant to her and/or superior in some way He wants to be the man who is partnered with the woman everyone else wants to get close to and call friend/lover/wife.Speaking of a wife, the Aquarius male is, especially in the late 20th/early 21st centuries, the man you will find shucking and jiving, ducking and covering, hiding and running from marriage.

The sentence ‘I love you’ will take a few years of knowing each other to come from his mouth and but do not believe it unless he backs it up with a ring and a wedding date. If he is unevolved and immature he will lie or make up any excuse he can think of, to avoid those three words for as long as he can. The Aquarius male, more so than many others, can justify in his head having one or more extramarital sexual affairs, claiming it was not his intention or “it just happened” etc. The sexually and emotionally dishonest cheating of the unevolved and immature Aquarius male (selfish, mean, dishonest) can even be the cause of a divorce, but he will quietly refuse to be the person who files for the divorce, because he wants his partner to be the one to “look bad” in the eyes of family, mutual friends, and acquaintances by filing for divorce against the “good guy Aquarius”.

Commonly, even prior to the 20th/21st centuries, the Aquarius male frequently divorced many times, unable to commit to marriage due to his quirks and habits. In present times, the Aquarius male may is likely to be more conscious about his fear of commitment to another person and his fear that he will be forced to spend long amounts of time with one person. He will reach his late 20s sexually inexperienced and emotionally naive about relationships with women. Courting is a puzzle to him and he moves slowly. He usually looks for a female who is his best friend. He will coolly hide his feelings of jealousy, which he WILL feel because he tends to choose as his mate woman who has her own popularity and entourage, so to speak.

If you are a woman who gives an Aquarius male your time and energy, one day, he will realize that his friends are moving in together, marrying and having babies. Feeling left out of the crowd or that he must “get a clue” and solve the mystery of marriage (or more specifically) to solve the mystery of you and relating to you. He suddenly wakes up in his 30s and realizes there is one woman who knows him and yet still loves him; he recognizes he could lose the best thing that has ever have happened to him. He is amazed and still cannot understand everything about you, but he is intrigued and magnetically drawn to you. Of course he realizes there is no guarantee that you can be uncovered and solved, but he is stubborn enough to spend several decades married to you and delving into the mystery.


Sign a pre-nuptial agreement before marrying this man because in a divorce, he will be a cold and heartless monster who ensure that he takes whatever benefits him and being fair to you is not likely to be his concern. No matter what he says before marriage. Do not fool yourself. The pre-nup will be what makes it a fair divorce, not his charming pre-marital promises. You will be dealing privately with Jack the Ripper in a divorce yet publicly everyone will only see him as a charming Rhett Butler.

The Aquarius Male and Finances

As his female partner, you will never worry about money. The Aquarius male will always secure money, through work or investments. Co-ruled by Saturn (its classic ruler before Uranus was discovered), Aquarius may like to buy quirky items, BUT will be conservative about spending. When it comes to having too plan for life with a spouse or family, the Aquarius man will be one of the better men with finances. The best thing is to work out a partnership plan to determine how financial resources are to be shared and keep open channels of communication about money.

Do not be extravagant with money or he will feel deeply hurt that you squandered what he was trying to save for the two of you. He may make bad mistakes with finances as a young man but he will eventually correct himself. Having good finances is important to him and bad finances are a source of shame for him that he can tend to want to hide. Money affect what one can do in life and he wants to be financially free to live expansively. Sometimes he can be a tightwad and will need ot be reminded to loosen the purse strings and live a little more humanely. He can be very stingy on the extras if he feels there is not a lot of money in the family, but you will never lack for basics of having shelter, food, insurance, medical care and transportation.

He will support you if you work in an unusual profession or do not make a regular salary, as part of his Aquarius quirkiness. If your income is lower than his, he will pay the mortgage, food, insurances and utilities (things he would normally pay alone anyway) but expect to be able to trust you to you to handle the finances well and provide the care and nurturing that makes life abundant. He will have outbursts of generosity every now and then.

58 thoughts on “The Aquarius Man

  1. Hi i am a sagitarius madly inlove with an aquarius man who drives me so insane. we met on fbook, he sent me a friend request later few days later received message in my inbox on fb thanking for my post as he really needed the advice i posted that day. I thanked him as he was so sweet and polite in his message, he responded and it carried on by day 3 he left me his work email address and i sent him an email. and we chatted like that for days. day time email, night time fb or whatsapp. truth be told i was in a steady and long relationship of which i have fallen out of the love with the guy i was with. He was engaged 5 years already. Things got really intense with my aquarius, he wanted to meet me in person i refused and turned down many coffee dates. I got scared as things were moving to fast in such a short period of time and i decided it would be best out of respect for our partners that we cut all ties. He was not happy but said he loved me enought to let me go. as soon as i let him go the Friday i realized how i missed him and realized my mistake, i wanted to send him a message on facebook only find he unfriend me. I was hurt that he unfriend me and took it he was done with me the thought that i left him left me heartbroken and couldnt stop crying, whole weeked i waited for some contact from him but nothing, by tuesday i was down and cut up inside, i kept staring at his picture which i had sved on my pc and begged on the inside for him to make contact. the evening as i went on fb there was a message from him “a thing of beauty is a joy forever”, I was not sure what he meant by that but i was only to happy that he made contact, i replied and he asked me if i was encouraging him to make contact and i replied yes. He told me how his heart was broken into a million pieces when i let go of us. he still wanted to meet me in person and i was still uncomfortable about that , oneday he asked if he could stalk me as he had to see what i look like in person, told him he could stalk me that day but i wasnt going to get in his car. The evening i got to my stop i see this guy standing there it was him, he looked so handsome and i walked over to him and said hi, could see he was nervous. He offered me a lift and i refused. And he folllowed me all the way home, as i was walking home he’d send me messages “f&#k you beautiful” id just turn around and smile. he told me he was more inlove seeing me in person. we met up again and the third date he spoiled me had the whole day planned for us it was magical, that nite he sent me a message and asked me why does he love me so much and that i became his world.. it was 2 days before he was going away on holiday with his fiance. he went away for 3 weeks. after week 1 i sent him a message that i missed him, he didnt respond later i sent him a message that he frustrates me by not making contact, i could see that he read my messages and that hurt me most. eventually i told him that i am backign off as it was clear he dont care as much as i thought he did, he responded that i was being silly and that he was still so much inlove with me. he came back from holidays and hardly made contact and i was torn, he eventually sent me a message saying he will be back at work and i will be all his that he miss me more than what i miss him. what am i to make of this . I feel like i want to quit on him yet, i love him so much even though his distance and coldness hurt so much. i feel if i meant so much to him why dont he make an effort to make contact. I feel like i am being used by this man. i hate this feeling that he has this power over me. do you think i should give up.

  2. My aquarian boyfriend of 4 months left me because a) he thought i was not happy with him, when i had tears in my eyes about the fact that i felt he didnt care about me b) i fell sick for a while and during the time i was away and recuperating he felt he was better off being single. he dumped me for not having enough time for me. sports and friends are what get him going, more than i ever did. he told me he still loves me, when i asked him, looked at me as though he wanted to kiss me, but still didnt want a relationship. in his words, its my bad luck that he discovered the fact that singledom suits him better, while he was going out with me. i wonder if all this is just a phase. the reason for breaking up is rather silly and unserious. does anyone believe me will return to me ?

  3. Been in a roller coaster relationship with Aquaruis man going on 4 years. I’m a Pisces .. He is 35, I’m 38 with 2 kids. We meet when I was in the process of getting a divorce.. He came in and said all the right things and everything that I had been lacking in my marriage he was doing.. Like most everyone stories he chased me and of course I fall for it.. When I emotional involved and let him know where I stood and my feelings, of course he said he felt the same but then did the disappearing act.. I did all the wrong things in the beginning when he did this.. Then I would say I was done and for him to leave me along, then he come begging me to take him back.. Then about year into it, I discovered he had been talking to another girl and pretty much telling her the same things he was telling me. I tried to leave him then, I told him that I had been honest with him and trusted he was being honest with me. I walked away but he wld never stop texting or calling me.. He tell me that he was sorry and that I was the one he wanted .. Blah blah.. Again I fell for it and we would be great for a while, then he wld start the distance and being aloof.. So I started getting that gut feeling and wld start questions.. So he broke it off, I didn’t chase after him or call him, he wld text I wld ignore it.. Then his text got to be begging for me to please answer and talk to him. I caved and of course we got back.. Well the same things wld start all over, I snooped one time and saw he was still talking to the other girl .. & never really ever stopped. I showed my a**.. Was very ugly I wanted him to hate me and stay out of my life.. At this point I was so thankful I had not let him really be apart of my kids life.. Well to make along story short, this same roller coaster ride took place a couple more times with the same girl.. The last time I didn’t show my a**, I just got in my car and left.. Ignored him for a while.. He showed up at my house and I told him that I didn’t trust him, and I wasn’t sure that I ever could again. He said he would do anything to make this work.. The last year has been a little better and I cld see a little change in him and that he was trying . But twice I have caught him talking to her and of course .. Same O same o.. He comes begging me back.. I come back.. Everything has been ok, he seems to be making an effort, but its the times that he goes distant and aloof that I get those old feelings of wonder and worried. He has been trying I think but I think it is to late.. I gave him my whole heart and trusted him over and over with it.. He says he loves me I’m the one.. But his not giving me enough of what I need to feel the safety that comes in a relationship.. I’m wanting to end it, but I honestly have no idea how.. I know that sounds crazy it sounds crazy when I say it .. I would love to here how some of you have gone about breaking it off with your Aquarius man.. Thanks

    1. Hi-my aquarius male broke up with me for no apparent fault of mine. Make sure you are very confident of the fact you want to break-up. Because he is so stubborn he may never want to come back to you again. Once you have thought it out, explain everything that you have written here (safety factor etc) to him instead. Aquarians are level headed. if you talk rational, they will understand. and then he will leave you, no matter what.

  4. Read the intro and the comments, wow. The description of the aquarius man is a replica of the aquarius man I dated and just finished with. He was hot and cold, up and down, available then unavailable. I NEVER knew where I was with him, he was the master of game playing, control and mind games and tests and mixed signals He was I am sure messed up and he nearly messed me up too but I escaped into the arms of a much nicer man. REALLY, I just gave up but I was so in love with him but why? He was mean, mean and cold words sometimes with absolutely no demonstration of love or affection or anything really, robot and an emotional cripple. I am so glad to be out of his clutches as he made me the chaser. What Was I thinking, I think I lost my marbles. No more, I am done and dusted now.Well but obviously still pondering over him, it is what they make you do, figure them out. Those eeeeeejits.

  5. Of all the blogs and websites on Aquamen, this must be one of the best. no need for sugar coating facts… you tell it as it is: most Aquamen are jerks in relationships.

    After reading what most fellow females have gone through with these mean but mouth-watering creatures (Aquarians) , I see the same pattern at least 90% of the time in the stories that have been shared:
    With Aquarius , it’s ALWAYS on their terms. They come and go as they please and they will scrutinize you and your inner secrets without revealing an ounce of their own. They are for Equality and humanity, but won’t practice what they preach. Equality, my ass. Everything with them is unfair, unequal and unbalanced. Even their hot/cold nature!
    The real question would be why do we keep them in our lives? When we are very much aware of their emotional immaturity and the time it takes for them to grow and how many years they will waste of our fertile years, WHY THE HELL DO WE STILL FALL FOR AQUARIUS MEN? WHY?
    Why are Aquarius men so intriguing? If it’s originality, then so was the “Magic Bullet” when it first came out 15 years ago… Is really “uniqueness” and originality what females want in a partner, or is this the effect of all those hormones in the food industry that have caused deterioration of our basic instincts as mammals? What I mean is that the Aquarius sociability and partnership nature is opposed to human nature. Humans want nurturing and love, they want affection and warmth. That is the core nature of us humans. We want love, we crave for love and we give love. WHY CAN’T AQUARIUS KEEP UP WITH THAT? AREN’T THEY SUPPOSED TO BE PEACELOVING HUMANITARIANS? Why are Aquarians so inhumanly cold?
    My conclusion is that Aquarians are robots. They don’t have emotions and they lack consciousness. Anyone convinced of the opposite is just too blind to realize the truth.

  6. I am an Aquarius guy 23 years old and I could pretty much relate to most of the things you said with personality and relationships and the way we might think. I was really fascinated with one particular paragraph that i hadn’t come across so far in other astrological sites and blogs and that’s the one where you spoke of a father figure which is was quite touchy and spot on as my father had left me when i was 2 and never came back but my mom raised me like a prince.My mom’s Leo by the way.And, i could relate myself to the thinking process that develops over time with such conditions but then again i was just thinking what would you think of such upbringing and character development with regard to astrology for an Aquarius son and a Leo mother without the presence of a father?
    Anyways Im so in Love with my gf right now, not because she is the best looking one or popular or what not but she loves me more than i do myself and how could i not fall in love with someone who’s given herself completely to me.
    : )

    1. sid_art, I enjoyed reading your post.

      Of course you are a great guy and a perfect Aquaman! You have been raised by a Leo and not any Leo, but a Lioness. Consider yourself lucky. Leo women tend to raise perfect boys and Lionesses tend to be great providers, no need for a male figure, a Lioness can be both mother and father and they will protect you with their claws and polish yours at the same time.
      Any woman that will be part of your life, is a lucky girl, because an emotionally evolved Aquarius is close to perfection.

  7. Good Evening HealingU & Community,

    I’d like to get your thoughts: I’ve dated an Aquarian male on/off for the last 6+ years. Took a year+ to get ramped up (bc of me), three+ years – I thought great (long distance) relationship, two years vague & unclear & the last yearish he is very present. He sounds a lot like much of what was described in the org. Post but has “claimed” during break to be working on himself. Now that he is in my space again should I allow him entry (intimate, personal, & familiar)? Is he near me bc I’m easy or genuine interest? When & how do you know you’ve evolved enough w/an Aquarian male to believe there is a difference? Where do you draw line for an Aquarian male?

    For background: I’m a Pisces female 35 years old. Ive had great relationships but I’m stuck here & would love input.

    Thank you,

  8. He is the first Aquarius Man I have ever dated. It has been 2 years and 8 months. I am a Leo. He found me. He chased me. He did anything to get my attention. He stole me from a Pisces man, who I only started dating for 4 months and 100 times richer than him.

    He did so many wonderful-sweet-kind-surprise-charming things. He even pays half of my mortgage without putting his name on the title of our house. He bought me a Convertible Mercedes on my birthday. He is the most charming man I have ever dated. He never spent a day without calling or texting me. We became best friend and business partner. We own a multi-million dollars company. I thought he was Mr. Right.

    Then after 2.5 years of being together (including over a year of sharing a house) I asked him what his thoughts about our future, he simply said that he wants to stay boyfriend and girlfriend, but doesn’t want to get married. I would like to get married and have a secured relationship. Since we don’t want the same thing in the future, I broke up with him. We haven’t seen each other for about two months now. Then, I met a kind, caring, and handsome doctor, who’s interested in long term relationship with me.

    Since he knew that I have met someone else, he is now afraid of losing me forever. Three days ago, he told me that he wants to marry me and can’t live without me. Then, yesterday, he said that he is afraid of getting married and needs to go to marriage/relationship counselors to see if they can help him for not being so afraid of getting marriage. Then today, he changed his online profile and looking for love online. When I saw his online profile, I told him that we should stop trying. He said that I should give him more time to think and he needs to figure things out on his own. It seems that he doesn’t want to live WITH me, but he doesn’t want to live WITHOUT me. What a complicated creature!

    I love him more than life itself and couldn’t bear to imagine my life without him. However, I am very insecure to continue to be his part time lover. He travels 50%-75% per month and I am not sure if he has other girls out there while traveling so much. He said he doesn’t have anyone else but me. He got hot and cold just like typical Aquarius. I cried a lot in the past 4 months because our relationship seems to fall apart.

    I learned that he shows his affection when I started planning my future WITHOUT him. Aquarius men seem to run after you when you WALKED AWAY. I guess, giving Aquarian man a chance to chase you seems to be the only way to keep their interest, sadly… That also made me afraid of being his wife, because being his wife would make him lost his interest forever. Being his wife probably is worse than NOT being with him at all.

    I promise, this will be the LAST Aquarius man I ever dated.

  9. I am a Capricorn female and I do a lot of reading up on the Aquarius males because I am in love with one. I never understand why he acts the way he do. I have been talking to him for a year now and he has done the disappearing act on me at least twice so far. I’ve went months without hearing from him and then he always come back around acting as if nothing ever happened. Because I love him and really want him in my life I always forgive him, I’m always straightforward & honest w/ him on how I feel. Recently, like 3 days ago, he was with his friends and I called instead of talking to me in a civilized manner he yelled he is busy with his friends and hung up on me. This made me feel very upset and disrespected so I called back and fussed him out. Ever since then he has been ignoring every text and call from me. I’ve apologized for fussing, spilled my feelings out, and tried to make things right, but there’s nothing I can do if he is ignoring me. So I just stop calling and texting him. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know why he even treats me this way when I do nothing, but be there for him whenever he needs me to, break my neck to see and spend time with him, and anything else I can to make him happy & satisfied.

  10. Wow, what an article. My story is the classic Aquarius rant and has lasted SIX YEARS NOW! I met my Aquarius man when we were 21 yrs old. I’m born October 23 and him February 4. We met two days before my big move to a bigger city and instantly we were connected. I held out and didn’t have sex with him as we began our long distance affair. We talked all the time, day and night and a month or so into it, he was telling me he loved me. He talked to me for hours and hours and we both made trips to see one another although my efforts were a bit greater than his. We were like best friends but lovers too, long distance, out of all things. Long story short, being young, I got attached, he got scared, backed up and we began to grow apart. He had many women in his life who wanted to break him of his singleness and being the party guy he had many acquaintances. He and I have managed to keep in contact, even after six years. I got his initials tattooed on my ring finger, unexpectedly, recently, and he posted it on FB as his profile pic to show everyone. I became an expert at mind games over these past years and we both play them constantly. He does value my opinion very much and it seems he stalks my FB because a lot of what I say on my page or advice I bring up to him shows up on his page as his thoughts. LOL, silly boy. So my issue is I’m still in love, been pretending and perfecting this friendship so long I have become him, very aloof and fidtant, unpredictable. He he loves to call me on woman advice but then he gets infuriated when I tell him I’m going to remove the tattoo and only be friends, so I can finally move on with my life. He loves me sooo much that he keeps me on the backburner, hadn’t seen me in years but would cuss me out from here to Egypt if I told him I had someone new. As if he doesn’t want me but will not accept anyone being with me. Its a very confusing situation and I know he admires my strength and my independence bit the games are never ending and although I know deep down, he loves me. Hes told all of FB he did, during one of his rants on FB. I always seem to make him feel better, yadda yadda… Yet he down right ignores my texts sometimes, and avoids me. Its like he won’t let me live without him and he doesn’t wanna be with me either, it seems. I feel like I’m the only person who understands him because we are a lot alike and we have a long history but at the same time, I’m learning, finally, and unfortunately, we may not be as forever love as I thought. Good luck to all of you…

  11. As a female Leo in a relationship with an Aquarius male this article had me worried at first! But I think I all around found a very evolved Aquarius. Most of my worries are that the Aquarius apparently do the opposite of the way they are feeling.. Our relationship is moving very fast it even has me surprised.

    I’ll try to keep it short but here’s how it happened.. My Aquarius male and I met about a year ago but he was dating a friend of mine. We were interested in each other but nothing came of it because I would never go behind a friend’s back and hurt them. Their relationship didn’t last but him and I didn’t talk for about a year. A month ago from now we ran into each other and hit it off again. He asked me to hangout with him alone and I did.

    It shocked me how fast things went. After only three times of us hanging out he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. We had a very strong connection for some reason. This article says that the Aquarius man usually takes long to have sex, but that wasn’t the case here. We had sex the day we started dating. The next day we were laying together, he gave a hug and said I love you. But then he got embarrassed and said that was way too fast. But I felt the same, even if that sounds crazy.

    He is sarcastic a lot and will jokingly talk about wanting me in his life forever, where we will live and what not.. he seriously talks about us traveling and experiencing things together. Within the first week of us dating I met his sister, he met my family, then the next week I met his parents. I slept at his house for two weeks straight and I usually sleep over on weekends, our days have been so much fun. I’ve seen him cry twice already… once because I got upset with him.. and the other time because he was frustrated (and a little drunk). I would say he is very open with his emotions. We often lay in bed talking about how surreal our relationship feels, how lucky we are, and we talk about how we felt when we first started hanging out.

    Also he seems to be the most unselfish person I have ever met. He took in his cousin, supports him with everything and always puts others before himself. I have seen him mad and it was scary! He yelled a lot about everything that was pissing him off, he even yelled about my cup being on his desk… which seems so silly now but he has never been mad at me and it upset me a lot. To calm down we climbed a tree and sat in it. Lol everything was fine afterwards.

    Every morning he texts me, even if I’m at his house and he’s at work. Every night he says good night. When we are together he always randomly says he loves me so much. He tells me I am the best girlfriend he’s ever had.. that it’s so easy to be with me and things like that. One night we made love.. and he text me saying he couldn’t stop thinking about how perfect it was. We haven’t hung out for a day and a half, I just received his morning text and he said we should hangout today because he misses me too much.

    So if an Aquarius male does opposite of what he feels.. then our relationship might not be as good as it seems! I know a of people don’t want to hear about my silly relationship but I thought it might be interesting to post, since a lot of talk of the male Aquarius is negative! I guess it’s all about how the sign was brought up and what they have been through!

  12. I enjoyed reading this blog. A lot of it sounds spot on but so negative. Every guy has a bit of it in them. My aquarius guy is 28 and I’m 23. We’ve been talking non stop for two months. He has been adamant about not having any relationships in his life besides friends. We had a very long talk about it a few days ago. Well all ofa sudden he decided he just wants to be intimate every once in a while if you know what I mean. I’m a gemini if that helps. Even when he makes me mad abiut ignoring me in public at a bar and I confront him about it..he never runs away. Can I get some advice on how to go about this?!?! Pain in my butt I’m tellin ya!!

    1. Hello Ash,

      I am sure others here will have some good advice for you.Each relationship is different but of course you know the beleief here is that “astrology works” and the things written in the blog article ring true.

      If you would like a professional reading on your relationship to get a better handle on it, you can order one from the list on the side of the page.

  13. I have to say I have been involved with many Aquarians and they are some very shady and sneaky folks. Not 100% of them but enough to look at them all like their bad. They’re too crafty. Love to make ppl feel bad for them. They’re outspoken to a point it’s like they advertise. Many are cheaters and yes if you let them they will throw you to the wolves. I don’t trust them. Period. I am trying to divorce my aquarian right now. He doesn’t deserve me. If only he showed me who he was 8 years ago. I should’ve known better when he told all his exes used him. They did use him with good reason because Aquarians can make you feel low. It’s their negativity and that was the payback from those women to him. Then he ran like most Aquarians do. They’re scary and/or destructive. They will break your stuff without thought. I wouldn’t date another one. Stay away. These folks can be very dangerous. If I
    had to give a percentage on the amount of bad Aquarians in the world. I
    would say about 99%. They have a way to get over on ppl. Don’t be Next!!

  14. my fiance is an aquarian. and let me tell he is really not how u described them. i am 23, he is 26. we have known each other since i was 15. he is my best frnd too. he never gave me opposite signals, like u said. in fact, he knows how i move away frm emotional discussions and so he deals wid those. plus he shouts when angry and forges about it 5 mins later. no cold, mean words. when i was 17, he joked about us getting married,n i joked along as well. but then, look at us now, we really are engaged. so,i’d say that some aqua men r diffrent than dis description:)

  15. Dear All,

    I am 20 years old, Pisces woman. I have known and been in a relationship with an Aquarius man on and off for 6 years. I meet him when I was 14, he was 15. He is very popular and has many friends. When I was first his girlfriend at age 15 he kissed another girl so i broke up with him. After that I still kept in contact with him but I did not date him. He always tries to talk to me no matter what. We decided to be together when I was 16 but I was not able to see him because I wanted to keep my relationship a secret from my parents so he broke up with me and dated another girl right after. Than I ignored him until we saw each other again in school and he admitted that he is completely in love with me. After than he was obsessed with me. We of course had our arguments because from time to time he was aloof but over all he was great. (I have to admit that I can be too clingy from time to time, and that turns Aquarius men off). I left for college when i was 18, and he left for the army. While he was in the army he wanted to marry me but I taught that it was to early, so I did not. When I came back from my first year of college I was so excited to see him, so I called him way to much and was horrible…he of course got mad and talked to me about why he was mad and ignoring me..after that I kept on arguing with him over and over again…and he became more distant. I broke up with him because he would not want to see me and I had not seen him for 6 months…ahh i was so frustrated. But after the second week I totally regretted my decision. I wanted him back, we tried to talk after but nothing happened…after 2 months we saw each other and slept together, he told me that he is really messed up right now and he thinks that we should not be together, he was also very mean and distant, i realized 4 days later that he has another girlfriend i was very angry so i left all of his things…he than tried to get me back 4 days later by non stop calling and texting. I was back with him yet again to discover that he was still with that same girl. So he broke up with me and I left for college.Three weeks later he contacted me again and we got back together, I again discovers that he was with that girl…but we still kept in contact. After i came back for christmas break he was with me on all the holidays and i was with his family….however he now started acting aloof and told me that he does not know what he wants and i am sure that he is with that girl. IDk anymore…does he love me still because he always says that he does. How do I get his attention? I left him alone and have not talked to him for 4 days now. Should I keep on ignoring him till he does something drastic? help!!!

  16. Nice one, Pablo, great to see someone attempting to redress the balance, which was beginning to look a little like a horror story! Decent Aquarians – and people of all signs – DO exist, you just have to find them. Congratulations on 17 happy years!

  17. I have been happily married for 17 years now and want to encourage anyone who would automatically writeoff an Aquarian because of this post to give an Aquarian man a chance to show you just how special you are to him…

    I am emotional, willing to share my feelings openly and can be extremely hyper-sensitive to others’ needs, putting my own needs aside. I would rather give my pay away then see someone else in need, I’d rather make someone feel like they’re the only one in the room than have attention on myself and I’d rather tell someone I love them than miss the chance to let them know how much I care. I don’t ever want to lose a friend because they are truly too hard to come by so I believe that making an effort to keep people close is paramount.

    I see many of the traits listed above, both good and bad, in many people I’ve met and they’re not all Aquarians, so I I believe everyone can see themselves in some way in the paragraphs above. If you write someone off because of their sign, you could miss out on the most intense love you’ve ever known… As an “Aquaman”, I found the blog overly negative until the very last paragraph and subjective, especially the 99% statistic quoted which seems a bit presumptive and arbitrary.

  18. I forgot to mention that for my bday ad Vday, he bought these elaborate personalized gifts; Love books, mugs, teddy bears, etc with him and my names and pics on it. But I just know something isn’t right especially since his actions (coldness and cruelness) contradicts them. He has sooo much potential, but maybe thats all it will ever be. He seriousy needs therapy.

  19. Hi,
    I am so grateful for this blog and and have never wrote a blog for advice so here it goes. My current Aquarian (01/20) bf is 22 and I (Scorpio) am 4 years older than him. When I first met him thought he was just the man I needed when he gave me great advice and listened to me. I quickly started seeing signs after one week when he kept pressuring me to become his gf. I kept explaining to him that we just met and was still trying to get to know one another. He is also from west/central part of Africa and told me (once we got into the relationship good)when he was younger he had a violent past but he got help. Anyways,I started seeing other signs like when he asked me the second week of us dating “where did I see the relationship going?” And I said I still need some time he would start putting on his shoes and walk out the house. This was a reoccurring thing for him; he would get mad at a qquestion or anything and just in the streets or at my house just walk a way. I never went through this with a man before ever in my life and am quite frankly tired of it. We have been together almost 11 months. He has been emotionally cold, very sarcastic, used to never say thank you or you’re welcome. He always had to choose the movies everything, it was all about him. He has a severe illness so that is another thing I have had to deal with. He recently told me I was the “trigger” to him becoming upset. I was so shocked and baffled because I kept quiet and walked on eggg shells for NINE months of our relationship (cause you bet not ask him anything!). He has started to make me feel like it’s me because my “expectations, and me supposedly making assumptions… I tried my best to help him and understand his pain, but this is too much. I was really starting to believe it was me. He would hang up and give me silent treatment for days saying “he don’t like to argue”… When he CLEARLY with his lack of giving a damn for me and what I need was the reason why we argue! He just don’t get it, and I feel like he never will or he will just probably not with me. I thought it was his age, his culture, but he said it’s just him, and I can’t take anymore. He swears he’s soooo in love with me, no his getting mad easily cutting our dates short, and temper tantrums don’t show it. Please someone explain and help me HEAL ME!

  20. Im so confused. please could you give some advice please?
    I met this aquarius man just over 2 months ago. We met in a club and i gave him my number. Next morning (real early) he calls and we chatted for about 2 hours! every day or night after then, he would take time to chat to me for hours and hours. he is such a good story teller although he still wont tell me what he does for a living which is a bit mysterious. He seems really intrested in me and everytime we met he would wine and dine me. we are a 2hours drive away from eacother however so spend more time talking than actully meeting. We meet maybe once a month. He has already invited me to a romatic weekend abroad and tells me that he misses me. so he does show emotion (unless its fake)

    Anyway he cant make plans and so he will just randomly call on the day we are meeting and ask me out. I am a cancer woman and i like stability so this can frustrate me a bit. He has invited to come get me and take me out and i will get ready and all hyped up and really late that eve, he will say somethings come up and just blow me out. I accepted it twice now but he did it again this weekend. He said we would spend the day and night so i gave up my easter plans of meeting friends and family to wait on this guy to blow me out. He didnt even contact me till late that night. I text him that i am confused by his actions and lack of effort lately and he replies saying “everything confuses you and just relax” like i have over exagerated. maybe i have but i let down plans for him. (maybe that was foolish of me but our meetings are so rare that when he does arrange to meet, i want to agree)

    My question is… do I get him to show me more attention? I am really intrested in him. he ticks all my boxes apart from lack of commiting to arrangements and no understanding of why im annoyed with him.

    can it work with an aquarius male and cancer woman?

    love to hear all replies xxxx

    1. Don’t contact him first, let him do the contacting. Don’t always be available when he wants to make last minute plans with you, tell him you are busy sometimes. He is taking you for granted a bit. Mine did this to me so I decided to pull right back and wait for him to come to me. I didn’t always answer his calls/texts. Other times I didn’t reply to them until the next day. I didn’t say yes everytime he asked me out. You need to make him think what you might be doing, where you are etc….it really works when they have to do the work. They don’t like it/respect you when you are always willing to say yes at a moments notice.

      Just be cool, let him come to you and make him do the work. It will pay off for you. They always want what they think they can’t have. Sounds odd but it really works!!!

  21. Aghhh!! I LOVE reading these and this entire article made me smile because despite what people think of zodiacs, they are TRUE!!!

    I’m a typical sexy, warm hearted, social, intelligent and independent leo woman who loves attention 🙂 …and I have been dealing with an Aquarius man for a few months now. WHAT AN EFFING ROLLER COASTER!! But I wouldn’t change anything because there is something I have learned and I hope it helps some of you..

    Just a little history, we are both the same age, 24. I met him on my birthday at a social event. It was love/lust at first site we saw eachother from 300 yards away and once we got close enough to talk/touch we were like a magnetic force (we are opposite signs) we had fun and exchanged numbers… I was like prey walking through a field of predators and he said he was happy just to receive a smile. We talked and hung out the following weeks, things happened pretty quickly then I made the BIGGEST mistake you can make with an aquarious man, he talked so highly of me to his friends and showed me off, BUT when he asked if we could “lock things down” or he could be my “boyfriend” I laughed in his face not thinking much of it or taking him seriously. OOPS! All hell broke loose…

    As weeks went on he admitted to being guarded, I fell harder everyday and he became distant. I initiated most of the conversation and while he would nicely reply nothing would ever come of it. I found out that he was casually talking to a gf of mind who he didnt know was my friend… he wasn’t calling her ‘baby’ or ‘mama’ like he was me but he was texting this “acquaintance” more than he was trying to text me! I blew up on him and when he tried to explain I shot him down and ignored him! When we did run into eachother and try to hang out after the bar we would have fights in the street… I’m talking going back and forth yelling, saying hurtful things to one another. One night he told me, “you can have any guy you want, I cant give you what you deserve, I’m not worth it.” He also admitted that he never really had a problem with his emotions but now something was different. He would give, then pull back. This behavior repeated for about 2 months we would even bring exes to the bar to make eachother jealous. I knew he was hurt but so was I!!

    Speeding things up… it has been a couple months since all of this nonsense and my gfs say even now when we are in the same room they can tell he is in love with me. He and I are back on cordial, ‘friendly’ terms. A coule weeks ago at the bar he starred at me the ENTIRE night then waited til the very end of the night to ask me over after and kissed me on cheek. Well before I even got to his house he calls and says, “where are you?! you’re not coming your OVER it!!” I was like wth Im outside CALM DOWN! Talk about insecure. So we hooked up and snuggled and hooked up in the am. When I woke up I saw the paintings that I painted for him then also a pic of his ex gf on his wall of ‘naked chicks’ haha.. he took it down while I wasn’t looking. Anyways we have friendly conversation. I told myslef I wouldn’t go crazy texting or making plans that everything JUST got good again…so I waited a few days and asked him if he wanted to come over he said he had to work ok I get it maybe another time I kept my cool (haha unusual!) We ran into eachother again after that on the beach and had a cool casual, “friendly” conversation. When he saw me on my way to go fishing the other day he made conversation I just cracked a joke and kept walking. Things are just OKAY which is better than sheer hatred 🙂

    ..This past Valentine’s Day I showed up at our local bar… he was there with all of his friends. He ”ran” into me and gave me a hug and I said Happy Valentines Day. While dancing on the dance floor, he made his way over and started dancing behind me as if to claim his property. We got close and danced awhile and it felt SO amazing being close to him I have missed him so much this entire time. When we weren’t dancing he was starring at me from across the bar. His friends said, “hello sweetheart etc etc one even made a joke like “whatsup with the love/hate?!” He left because he had to work the next day and I PROMISED myself I wouldn’t call him…obviously alcohol was involved and I did it anyway. He answered right away I just said I hope you had a good valentines day and I enjoyed dancing with you, he said the same then we both just said goodnight. I havent text or called and he hasn’t either…

    My question is could it be possible that he still has feelings for me, but because he is already guarded in nature and I already hurt him, he wants to punish me OR he fears history will repeat itself? Either way I havent bombarded him with my emotions and because things are finally good I think I should just leave it alone and let it happen if it will… I think of him CONSTANTLY and have never felt this way but what I have learned is that aquarius men love their space and independence, they love a chase and hate to be pushed. THEY ARE THE MOST COMPLICATED ZODIAC! So I’m going to ignore him until he makes another move even if I have to wait a whole year!! (God let’s hope not!) Any opinions or ‘constructive’ criticism would be greatly appreciated 🙂

  22. I’m a Taurus and I recently started dating an Aquarius man, about 3 months ago. We were very drawn to each other and the relationship moved slowly at first and then suddenly has become very intense. He admitted his inability to commit when we first started “hanging out”, but before we were intimate. He said he’d rather die than get married and said he had not been in a relationship in years and years, and has not been intimate with anyone either. He is 40.

    We had one big fight before we ever got anywhere and I was committed to never talking to him again because i thought he was such a jerk. He called me after a few days of cooling off and we resumed our courtship with a new/different sense of seriousness. Now, things seem to be perfect. He is emotionally available and open to me, loving and affectionate, and complementary. He said something along the lines of the “L” word last night, but it was some slighly vague version of that …

    Now, I’m not sure, will he lose interest in this like he has all his previous relationships, or could he finally be ready to commit to someone (me)?

  23. I’m so curious to know what happened with William. Did his woman forgive him? Did he marry her??? What!! Lol!!
    strangely his story sounds like mine.. I’m the woman who my Aquarius guy has been playing games with. Things haven’t gotten as bad as Williams situation or should I say it hasn’t gotten there “yet” but I am at the point where I am trying my hardest to hold on. In my case my guy has introduced me to his family, and his brothers adore me… one of them likes me a little too much than they should which I learned to keep my distance out of the respect of my Aquarius guy as I would never hurt him.

    I wish I had Williams email address to hear his progress and try to guide him some how. This sucks, I’m so curious haha

  24. Oh please don’t make a long story short… I met this Aquarius with the moon in Libra. I AM A SAGITTARIUS with moon in Aquarius. I must admit I am so much like an Aquarius. Anyway He basically kept being persistent about being with me, I didn’t feel it was logical for us to be together because he lived so far away and I just got out of a crazy stressful relationship with a Scorpio n I just wanted to I.injoying being free. After great ….wait many great conversations I began to have feelings for whom I thought he was portraying himself to be. I honestly didn’t believe him. He told me he fell inlove with me.over n over I didn’t feel safe to tell him that I was into him. After about a month of talking I felt a bond. But before I allowed my self to get hurt I must test his words n worth because I knew I could fall hard for this man n he could hurt me. That’s power.I hate someone having power over me…because they would be in control. Honestly I go for relationships where I know I won’t fall inlove ..But I had just begun to realize this because I was with a Scorpio who took be down to almost nothing.! I had no choice but to build myself back up n remember who I was n recognize that who ever I was wasn’t doing something write if I allowed someone who I had no romantic feelings for to do this …So I knew I had to learn who I was n why I didn’t seem like other Sagittarius women. Anyway I decided to test the aqua man.I felt he was full of it. I told him one day I do love him after he said I love you…as he ends every conversation he waifs I love you.This time I said it back. He was shocked.!he responded with obvious fear in his voice “baby do u mean it? Please don’t play with me because my love is real.” “. I just couldn’t do it.. I’m not a liar I thought to myself I made the truth very clear. I. Said if this you that ur showing me is who you really are? … then Yes. I do love you. But not inlove with you.I feel ifwe could meet in person in truly get to know each other ..your the type of man I could fall inlove with. He said baby we will meet I feel it. With that told me he loved me again, I said I love you too. He said it feels so good to hear that from u. Then things started to get more extreme his calls became jealous, mean …at times I didn’t hear from him. I’d never call unless he told me to. And even then he’d rush off the phone. I’m very busy running my business so I understood. Never complained. ONE day he called n said why me K**** why me? I said what r you talking about? He said ur fn beautiful ur smart, honest …and so much more… etc etc He said .I said I hear that all the time there’s nothing u can say to me no compliment u can give that I haven’t hurd…yet still I’m getting hurt. That’s why I want u so bad because ur like me. You don’t really give compliments n ur very rude.I’m use to getting what I want n it’s never really what I want. What I want is a man to respect me for who I am. I like that I don’t have to play dumb for u to love me. I like that u prefer me without make up.I love ur raw honesty
    he said but you can have any man u want …. u don’t need me. I why r u talking like this u sound like. .. he just starts yelling … n won’t let me finish any statement. So this keeps happening on every phone call. Then he tells me to change my Facebook photo because it makes me look like a female that’s a sl**…! By now I’m use to his rudeness but now I feel he’s just pushing it. I said no I like it n ur not my man.I’m a grown women n what’s with the tactics lately. Call me when u calm down n can speak to me with respect. He hangs up on me..! I couldn’t believe it. More rude. Mean. Words calls got shorter.I decided that it’s to much n nothing I getting. All we have is words n he won’t let me talk. So I’m done. I told him how I think he needs someone better suited do him.but I don’t understand why he’s so angry n I did nothing to him. He said how can u brake up with me n ur not even mine. I said then why do I feel like ur mines . He said because I am stupid but ur to scared to admit u love me. So go run off.! I’m sure you’ll find a man in no time. Thanx for showing me ur true colors… bye.!!! He didn’t hang up… so softly said bye… then hung up. He tried to hurt me by telling his ex he loved her n missed her. It only hurt me that he wanted to hurt me. I missed him. I still do. I just feel it ridiculous to truly love him. I don’t know enough n I’m not going to be his verbal punching bag. I have left him alone …he calls text n sadly he’s right I’m currently in another relationship with the Scorpio who adores me treats me like a Queen but I could never love. My question is what’s wrong with me n why do I over think things. His words made me think…he said I’m a scared women with deep issues… I’m wise enough to know he n I aren’t ment to be. But I’d love a man somewhat like that but not quick to bail out. I left because I new he had already left ..he just didn’t want to say it. I need to love without fear of not being loved Back. I hate wasted time. My birthday is November 26 /1976 can u please help me with some real honest advice?

  25. I have dated two Aquarius men and both fit the description in this article. I am a Virgo and I’m starting to think I just don’t mesh with Aquarius men AT ALL! I try to not put a ton of thought into zodiac signs but maybe I should a little more. The first Aquarius man I dated broke my heart. It was only 4 months(thankfully!) but he ended it so horribly even though I was always kind to him. So when the next Aquarius came around a little over year later I figured I’d give it a whirl. A persons sign can’t be that important right? Wrong! It was almost the same situation except this Aquarius is a much nicer person. We have only dated once again for 4 months(is this a normal number for aquariuses to stay involved or just the ones I’ve met?) and it was very intense. We spent every weekend together. Did lots of fun things like weekends away and such. I would have little melt downs at times because he wasn’t expressive with his feelings. Never telling me he liked me or wanted to be with me. But whenever I would get upset about it he would calm me down and say he just isn’t very emotional and that he would try to contact me more and express more feelings. One of my big problems were we live in different areas and would only see each other on the weekends so during the week he would be completely content with not contacting at all and for me that didn’t work. I’m not a super demanding needy girl but he takes it to another extreme. I do need to be able to gage a little bit were his head is at. So everytime he would calm me down and say he would try harder(and he would) I felt closer to him and would let down more of my guard. I tend to be very untrusting and guarded when it comes to letting men really in my life other then casual dating. So as I felt closer to him I started doing what comes natural to me, taking care of him. Making great dinners and doing sweet nice things for him just because I like to make the person I’m with happy. So after 4 months of this when my best friend asked if her husband, her and myself and my new guy could get together I at first thought NO NO NO. But after thinking about it I figured what the hell, I will ask. Well he of course said no, that would be uncomfortable. Which I sort of agreed with myself but I wanted to hear why he felt that. So I started prying because for me his cold short answers were not enough. I’m not ok with you just saying no and that’s the end of the convo. You need to explain that to me like a normal functioning adult. So all the sudden I get a text that says, I’m sorry this will never be serious. I enjoy hanging out with you and doing fun things but it’s nothing more then that to me, i like you and but it’s been for months and it hasn’t turned into anything else. I was shocked. It hadn’t felt like that at all to me. He then tried to ask if we could still hang out because he likes spending time with me so much. Even scale back on the intimacy if that makes me more comfortable to be “friends”. I said no because I have feeling for him and it’s gone to far for me to take it back now. He has been trying to casually message me but even that is hard. I don’t normally have males for friends. acquaintances yes but I prefer to just have close girls friends. So here I am stuck. I’m in love with a guy I thought really cared for me that has now told me he just doesn’t feel that way for me but wants to hang out and still do things all the time. Is this normal?? Im so forthright with my feelings and there is no beating around the bush with me so this situation seems so strange. He doesn’t have many friends and is kind of shy and socially awkward. I am very outgoing and friendly so maybe he just likes that I’m easy to be around and enjoys spending time with me? I’m not completely sure what to do. I care about him but I feel like I’m doing myself an injustice by accepting this downgrade. I’m a wonderful person who treats the people I love like gold be it friends, family or a man. I don’t think I could emotionally switch this romantic relationship to a platonic friendship. I really wonder if this is honestly how he feels deep down. I know he’s saying it and I should just take it as that but I feel like he’s really just trying to push me away a bit because Im getting to close and pushed having something real. Any thoughts would be very appreciated even though at this point I feel like I’m beating a dead horse. I will tell you after this Aquarius relationship I’m done with them. Two is enough for me!

    1. I don’t know if you are still with this Aqua man or have given up on him! But just wanted to give some input if still needed.

      I could have been reading about myself and my situation when reading your post. They are hard work, mine will never go out with other friends etc…Only if it is his idea. If I’m the one asking him to go out with friends he either says NO or lets me down at the last minute. DRIVES ME NUTS!!!!!!

      Best thing to do when he starts back tracking on your relationship status is to tell him your fine about it, as long as he knows that means you are free to keep your options open and see others if you want. That will make him sort himself out and you will know for sure how he really feels about you. Don’t let him get away with having things his way all the time, but don’t let him know what you are doing.

      He is testing you for a reaction (they love that game) If he says something that you don’t like DON’T REACT, just say Oh OK. Then don’t contact him, let him come to you. This is what I have had to do with mine and have been for three years. It’s all about games and tests with these men but you soon start to see a pattern. Don’t play into his hands, just act cool and calm he will soon get his act together. Give it a try it’s fun, you should see the look on his face when you haven’t reacted how he thinks you will.

  26. I´m been dealing with a bad aquarius man for almost three years (a long time).He comes and goes in my life and I don´t know what to think anymore. He dissapears and then one day he calls me or writes to me out of the blue and he wants to talk with me about his problems, flirt with me or simply know how I am. He had made a point about how much he wants me….. almost 99% of the time he very clearly tells me that he wants to sleep with me. I don´t trust his erratic behavior so we haven´t done it. Sometimes I feel is just lust but other times he talks very sincerily abut his feelings and say that he care about me a lot and now…. he treats me like a friend and flirt with me even when he´s with another girl and I refuse him because I am with another guy. The few times we´ve been together he´s been an asshole talking about sex with other women and just been cold with me. I don´t know why does he keep coming back into my life!!! I´m confused, angry and hurt because I used to have strong felings for this man but he hurt me so bad that I just feel really bad now… What do I do with him? I carry on with my life or try something to make him understand that I need him to be mature and stope playing games??

  27. I have to say: I’m Aquarian guy and I disagreed with the fact that Aquarians don’t want to show their emotions. I want to show my emotion, but I dont know how. Thats the problem. When about sex, well that’s not a trouble. I could have sex all week, multiples times a day. That would be great. About my mood, I dont go mad to the mutch often. And when I do I never yell.

  28. This is pure comedy I laughed the whole time while reading this. Aqaurian Males….LMAO…Now I see why we are so perfect for one another…I have a “friend” I am “akwardly courting” now. He invited me out and ignored me the whole time. I felt bad for a second, but then started enjoying party and ignoring him…but where ever i moved he was there too, LMAO…GREAT ARTICLE, OR BLOG

  29. I’m a taurus and I can’t decode a certain aquarius.We’ve been hanging out in a same group of friends for about 5 months and I’ve noticed that he treats me slightly differently than other girls.He enjoys to tease me,make me furious,but at times he leaves me breathless with some of his gestures,like grabbing my hand and kissing it(even though he’s not much for physical contact),continuously asking what’s wrong when he thinks I’m in a bad mood.But he also tends to ignore me afterwards.What do you think?

    1. It sounds like he is decoded in this blog post. But remember to stnad your ground when you want something more serious. Although many other things play into compatiblity other than a Sun sign, you both have Sun in a fixed sign, and square to each other, so this will be a relationship where you learn from each other through the rough spots.

  30. I’ve been with my Aquarius for 7 months… Dating for a year…yes it took that long lol. But he’s actually quite caring and sensitive in certain aspects. I’m a leo, so were opposite signs. But we have much in common. But we also are both very different and unusual if that makes sense. He’s stubborn and very fixed in his ways yet is curious and will try new things ( even if he usually sticks with his usual). I love new things and preference changes like the wind. But we love being around each other.. even if he’s just on the computer and I’m watching a movie. We are very mushy in private but social and distant on social outings. As long as he can maintain his cool and rep he’s never cold unless he’s sad or something is bothering him. He treats me like a princess really… His moon is Aquarius. virgo in Venus. Mars in Taurus.

  31. They claim to like honesty, but are some of the worst liars! I can’t stand cowards! I’m a Pisces woman with a Scorpio rising, Sagittarius moon, Venus in Aquarius, and Mars in Gemini. I met an Aquarius man recently and just when I let my guard down and tried to have a fun friendship…he just lied and then ran away like a dog with his tail between his legs. I get the need for freedom, I like my freedom too. I wasn’t looking for a marriage just someone I could have some fun and mind-blowing sex with and who would be willing to go out. Now, should I ever see him again, I will put some of my kickboxing skills to good use and drop kick his sad sob a** into next year!

    1. LOL, yes, lies can flow from their mouths like ater from a jar and they charmingly smile and says you are the one who doesn’t know reality. But REMEMBER, if you see him again, cooly ignore him and be very detached. The best “revenge” on a cold Aquarius is to ignore them. Their egos are HUGE and they want to know that even though they are not with you, you have some feelings or them, evne if it is hate. The opposite of love is apathy, not hate. Detach, let what is done be done and move on, even when he comes around again to see if he can revive something in a roundabout manner.

  32. I let my guard down and let myself feel something for him and then he just disappeared, stupid me. He’s not the 1st Aquarius male I’ve met, I knew one 11 years ago and we had a great friendship. He fell in love with me but there was another girl who knew him before me and who was in love with him. I told him to be with her, and I walked away. Now, I have this one and he just disappeared as though he never exisited in the 1st place…I will not trust him again.

  33. Hi!!

    I am a Libra female from India. I have intense feelings for an aquarian male but am not sure about his feelings. He is sometimes very warm & caring with me and sometimes he turns totally cold & blunt. He would ignore me or not contact me for ages and if I do the same he would sometimes turn around ask whats wrong etc.
    He keeps mentioning that he does not cares for me or is not concerned about me if am not well but he would be around & give his suggestions.

    Plz help me as how can i ascertain what he feels or thinks about me? I love him & want to spend the rest of my life with him but am scared to tell this to him as he has already clarified it to me that he hates attachments and does not wants to get attached to anyone except his sisters & nephews.

    Is there any way I can win his heart? Please help..

    Thank you..

  34. Hi all, I’m a Libra , and I have known this Aquarius guy for just one year. He is a single father of two kids. When we first met, is through a social platform. It was very fun, full of laughter, we met, we clicked with each other. But after the meet up, he seems to be a bit different. We only being in contact sometimes, and it is always me who will start the conversation. I have try to understand their nature of flirting with other girls. After we met, he keeps his flirting session with others. There is one girl whom I’ve seen her facebook to be really in love with him. Then i sent him a message saying that, maybe I’m not good enough for him, so I’ll better make a move. I was heartbroken at that moment to leave him, while i still need him. Then after a month, i wish him on his birthday. He reply to the wish and say thanks for the wishes. After that our relationship seems to restore to the normal condition. Then on Valentine’s day, i did not have the guts to wish him i love him cause i knew that i should not rush him in this kind of thing. But to my surprise, early morning on Valentine’s day, he wishes me and say that he loves me. I find it hard to believe and I’m so speechless. I couldn’t be more happier than that day. Months to months our relationship have ups and downs. Right now he seems busy flirting with others. When we have any issues, he seems to keep quiet, he didn’t sound a thing. He always keep quiet although i know he can say whatever he like. But when it comes to me, whenever we had a fight, he opt to keep quiet. Then a few weeks back, he seems to have a problem. I sent him a BBM saying that if he need someone to talk too, i will always be there for him or if he likes to keep it to himself, it will be fine for me. Then suddenly he deletes me from his BBM list and refuses to answer me when i ask if i did anything wrong when i sent him the BBM. He kept quite till now. I just don’t know what to do. I am deeply in love with him. Any advice? Thanks in advance.

  35. Hello G. You need to re-read the article very carefully and take some deep breaths. Then read what you wrote. You have allowed this Aquarian ex-boyfriend to manipulate you into thinking that you are inadequate and need help because of his problematic peronality and behavior. You are apologizing to him when he has emotionally agbused you — and that is a form of domestic violence. WHy are you apologizing to him and sekeing his forgiveness when he is emotionally blocked off from you? WHile he may be brilliant and charming, he does not sound very mature and he sounds abusive in intimate relationships because he cannot and will not and express normal emotions. Specifically to answer your question — YES all signs, houses, planets and aspects matter in oudual charts. Surely transiting Saturn in Libra is affecting him now if he has a Libra Ascendant, and if he has Venus in Leo, all teh transits that have occurred in Aquarius in the last decade have opposed his Venus. But do not make excuses for this cold, emotionally cruel Aquarius male. Look for a healthier relationship. Four years? You should be married. Four years? He gives you the silent treatment and doesn’t call you back? Move on. Give him an ultimatum if you think he is still worth the time. But even before you do that, pack your emotional bags and (be prepared to) move on. Escape from Crazyland!! I see very little chance for a future with this man.

    1. Hi HU. I need ur opinion so badly. I know i might bring u headache. but i just broke up recently with an aquarius guy. (im a taurus 20 yr old girl)
      Sometimes i find it hard to breathe. i cant stop crying and i feel like my life stopped and ended. Even tho i laugh with my frndz nd try to b positive and think more about my future goals and career as im the type of person ho can never stop dreaming..i still come to da same point nd cry about the break up.( we broke up less dan a month ago)
      I dont know anythin about the rise of planets. Hes born on 16 feb 1989 and im on 18th may 1992.
      But i can c many girls have gone to similar problems as mine.

      Hes such a contradicting person. He never stopped saying i love you. He used to sometimes ignore me for his friends and sometimes forget tellin me wer he was all day. And other times he just seemed to b far away. But eventually he comes bk and says im sorry i kno we havent been in touch lately so how u doin?..I used to get mad and i used to tell him we need to stay connected especially dat we r in 2 different countries i worry about u and i dont wana lose u. He admits he is rong nd we get bk 2 being ok again.
      I da last fight rite b4 da break up i was soooo Angry i kept screaming at him cuz all day he ignored me for somthn as stupid as i was driving my mates to da park, i couldnt send u a message.

      While i find its not fair dat no matter how busy i get i always have stop nd freeze wut im doing to send him a message and say babe r u ok?
      after dat he said i cant continue loving u and i cant marry u. I dont want to b in a relationship with any1. Im just fed up from this love thing and i kno im not marriage material. I wont make u happy.
      SUDDENLY he said all that within 24 hrs. after he was jus da day b4 it tellin me dat he cant let me go. I WAS SO SHOCKED.
      Now its been a month and he hasnt said a word to me. And i keep goin bk nd sendin him msgs tellin him im sorry if i pressured u. I need to talk to u with honesty. I need to understand. i will change 4 u ill give u ur own space but dont leave me. I told him we can work together 2 make ourselves happy again. We make it work!

      He still says im sorry but i cant i have to reach my goals i wont let any girl stop me. then now hes saying we’re done! i dont want anythin from u ( yet he doesnt delete me from his chatt list)

      wen we used to b in a relationship he used to b so sensitive to my needs and emotions. but now i feel like hes a block no matter wut i say his mind is blocked. I dont wana lose him

      I love him wut can i do?

      1. i forgot to mention something…we been committed for 5 years

      2. There isn’t anything you can do to change his mind, nor should you. WHat you describe is typical (unevolved) Aquarius male behavior. You are cutting off YOUR future and preventing yourself from having a life, a good life, by continuing to associate with him. Aquarius males largely will not be the one to file the divorce papers, “unfrend” you or remove you from a chat list because they want to always appear to be the “good guy” and try to come back into your life later as a “friend” — especially if it might benefit them in some way.

        Get a reading and gain some insight about your path and where you need to head next, rather than focus on this person.

  36. I also found your article to be very true. I was wondering, how important are the other aspects of the birth chart in how “aquarius” a man can be? My ex boyfriend (of three days) has a Libra rising and a Venus in Leo. How important are those? I hope that you see this question because I noticed that this article is a few years old….You were so accurate and insightful that I would love to hear what you have to say. We broke up after four years because I have emotional outbursts and frequently give him problems for not calling back soon enough, etc…I have a lot of anxiety and I take it out on him, really whenever I think about it I’m fine with him being alone when he needs to, or not available 24 hours a day. I also have a nine year old, and they love each other and are very attached. We do not live together(I live in the suburbs and my grandparents live with my daughter and me, he lives twenty minutes away in the city), and I want to become less anxious and less prone to take out my dark side on him. I really don’t mind that he wants to be alone and read or think, and I want to show him that, but I’m afraid this time might be too late. I hope he hasn’t made up his mind for good, since we were working through it for so long and I have made improvements over the years consciously. I always apologize afterwards too, but this time my apology didn’t change his mind. Otherwise we love each other, and nothing else bad has happened. I want him to be in my life, he’s my best friend and I want to be his lover too. I know that I can accept him as he is in my heart, and I need help with general anxiety but think that that will lessen the more that focus on myself. I love him and I miss him. What are the best things that I can do to show him that I can relax? I haven’t called him since we broke up, and this time he asked for his keys. I really want to know how to show him i’m sorry.

  37. HU and Nicole, Thanks for your advice. What is lacking strongly in me is quite clear, in one word, “emotions”. And I say stongly because I do have emotions and understand them but they just aren’t strong enough to be accepted. I am beginning to bring around that change in me. Look at life, relationships, friendships differently, not analytically, but with emotion, compassion, empathy, and probably the most critical of ’em – committment. It’ not going to be my way or the highway, it’s going to be our way.

  38. Rohit & William- As each of you are on totally opposite sides of the Aquarius mindsetI have a comment for each of you. I have dated an Aquarius-and in my opinion they are the most tricky of the male zodiac signs. Rohit-you state that females need to get to know your sign better? The thing is we do, however it is not just us that needs to be in touch with you, you need to be in touch with you. Your feelings and lack of expression of them mainly. The world would be far more harmonius if you could share just the slightest bit with any/all the woman you are dating. It is calld compassion and empathy. William-I am happy to see that you finally came to the realization that the woman you have hurt is the woman you have loved all along. I hope she forgives you for your mistreatment of her and that once you do have her, you do not let her go. Woman are creatures who like to be cared for, if only by the right person, so if she does let you into her world again, you better get on your hands and knees and thank her. And actually follow through on your words. I could go on and on, about Aquarius men, however, I will not. I am not bitter, just baffled by their behaivor. Lessons have been learned and I hope for the two of you you each learn yours. Good luck!

  39. William, To use your phrase, what can I write? Four years? That is a lot of emotional unhealthiness. Because of your age, I can likely safely assume you are in your Saturn Return (in Libra) and marriage to this woman you love is the thing you are supposed to do to demonstrate the transition to manhood/adulthood. Clearly you know the problem and it sounds like you have badly hurt this woman you love. Sometimes it is not possible to get someone to trust you again after you have hurt them. Sometimes you must work hard and long to earn their trust again. If the woman is no longer in love with you, maybe you can and maybe you can’t re-kindle that love. Why should she believe you? If you really love her, why do you not want her to be happy, even if it is with your cousin? Five suggestions: ONE: stop your fake association with the manipulative girl. Why are you fooling around with a “girl” when you know you have someone in your life you love who is a “woman”? TWO: stop lying to your family about her and other things. THREE: ask the woman you love to talk to you then BEG, long and hard. Dignity has no place here. You acted like a dog (which you admit). You need to be willing to do anything to win her back, no matter how long it takes. FOUR: if you get her back, bring her to meet your family and stop lying to them. FIVE: marry her as immediately as she would like and circumstances allow. Four years is absurd and cruel. If you have the ability to win this woman back, you need to make every day of the rest of her life a blessed one where she never, ever has reason to regret you again. If you are telling the truth about marrying her tomorrow, then marry her tomorrow. Otherwise you are lying again and being the kind of person you described. If you won’t do those five things, let her be happy with your cousin.

  40. Rohit, Re-read your post. First you admit you have a problem, then you end by saying that women need to “understand” Aquarius men better. LOL, no, they do not. You are showing that you know you are the person in your relationships who has the problem, and then you try to charmingly blame it on the women. You are imbalanced and stuck in intellect. You are lacking in the ability to express emotional intimacy and you are fearful of relationships because they committment and emotional intimacy. I am sure you are a nice person, and many think you are great…but if you really want to get married, you must change. Authentic connection with others only comes when you are authentic and that means opening yourself emotionally and treating others with the same humane behavior with which you expect to be treated. In a love relationship, it means being open, not playing intellectual games and being charming. You are understood quite well; you put a lot of energy into getting a woman to open up (a false intimacy) and then you run away and as the article notes, you try to have her believe it is her fault. You clearly show emotional fear about marriage, as though going in it has a limited shelf life or back door (“how long?”). You may be a nice guy but stop fooling yourself regarding relationshipsIt’s about making a rational, logical decision to be an emotionally mature man, and not a boy.

  41. What can I write? I hate to admit this but I am the unevolved, selfish Aquarius man you write about. I have f*cked up everything. I am 30 and my life is shattered. My economy is ruined. I have lost respect in my family and worst I now realise I have lost the woman I love. I know what I can do to get a job with a good salary and fix my economy, but it is the matter of the woman I am in love with that is the big problem. Can you counsel me on how I can get her back, which will also help to fix my family relationships? I have read this blog article many times in the last year and told myself that it is not me although I have the Aquarius traits you write here. You are very good at this and have exactly described me: my philosophy about life and the way I have treated (mistreated?) the woman I love and who loved me. I hope she will still find love in her heart for me. For 4 years I played with her emotionally and did everything I could to keep our relationship secret. I denied we had a relationship. I hid her from my family and from other people. I treated girls I only wanted as casual acquaintances better than I treated the woman I loved. I was satisfied to have people think I was involved with a girl whose “friendship” I have only used for selfish reasons – knowing that girl has a crush on me and is a manipulator. I used that same girl to play emotional games to hurt the woman I love so she would keep her distance and I would not need to commit emotionally. I did not want to deal with my feelings. On the outside I was a cold and sarcastic b*stard. I have lied a lot, mostly through omission, as you write. I unfairly started talking about marriage and then like a coward I changed my mind. In the last few years I have been living a lie. I am always worried about money and am socially disconnected now because of it. I pretend to people that I am living the high life. I just used that girl again and felt dishonest the whole time. I have been thinking for over a week about things because the woman I love is now talking to a (male) cousin and I am afraid they will start dating. I tried to scare her off. I told her not to talk to anyone in my family. I lied to my family and while I told them I have feelings for her and would do something about it, I only said it so they would leave me alone. The thing is, I think my cousin and the woman I love will marry. I admit it. I am jealous. I am angry and I am jealous. It is like they say, I only realized how valuable she is and how deeply I am in love with her and that I want to marry her, after she left me. She returned my stuff and walked away after 4 years. I do not know what I can say to her to get her to believe me if I say I have changed. She wants to be married, to have a family. She bought a wedding gown. She has dream wedding. I denied her all this with my mistreatment and emotional games. She wanted to do all these things, to build a life with me. She knew me, good and bad and still loved me. I love her but I was afraid I would not have a life but now I see the great life was with her. I was too stupid to see I had the best woman in the world and now I have lost her. I am going to ask my family for a job and the money for an engagement ring and the wedding she wants. I can improve my economy and support us. How can I as an Aquarius man convince her I am not full of sh*t and playing a game with her? How do I convince her to just talk to me, hear me out and let me make it all up to her? I want to propose marriage to her, to give her the ring and the wedding and the life I should have given her before now. I am scared. I would marry her tomorrow if she would just give me one last chance. I am 30 and alone and lonely. I f*cked it all up. I Help me get her back. Please. Aquarius Male Idiot

      1. It is quite sad that you do generalize because I will tell you one thing there are reasons as to why we are like this. Our element is air our thoughts flow as air does and with many twists, one thought leads to the next and creates question also explaining why we are so curious. We are complicated thinkers that is a fact but also makes us that intellectual person we are known to be it is relevant for almost every one of us but it is why we are genius but don’t often care to show it as we know that the day you think you know everything is the day you have stopped learning. We simply do not like to be emotional or even think of trying to be emotional, we are aware in behavior and we know we have to be objective while being subjective to grasp information/gain knowledge because in the process of figuring something out or trying to come to the correct or factual idea or thought can be affected by emotion and we understand that, this is why our emotions or feelings don’t get in the way of doing the right thing or justifying. Yes we can be compationet and maybe the best at it sense we do know patterns that make people act or feel curtain ways but we decide when a person deserves that and whether we trust them or not because trust, respect and honesty is what most of us believe in and stand for. All that selfish talk and the rest of the bad stuff is usually just immaturity the one person most likly was affect by something in their past. We are pretty interesting and we just keep finding things out about our selves every day but if you want an exciting person around or someone that is up for things an aqua is the way to go. Hope this did justice to those of a mature aquarius audiance.

  42. Hi, Im an Aquarius male, mid-twenties, from India. I have had 3 relationships in the past. In each of them, the woman has experienced and expressed feelings that she has had with no man before, and that she always dreamt of. In each relation, it was me who broke it. I feel terrible about them, especially when the reasons aren’t of any significance. Is it my Aquarian nature? I am more rational,scientific,and so called ‘intellectual’ typical of an Aquarian, but why can’t I get the point when I have to maintain a steady relationship? I am scared. Will I be able to sustain a married life? I know the value of marriage. But will be faithful to the institution of marriage against being faithful to the wife herself? Yikes, I hate thinking about such stuff. But I know one thing for sure, ladies, that we Aquarians can truly keep you happy, to the extend of saying that our love can be greater than all the zodiac signs put together….but for how long? Beats me too. If only we were understood better, then half the women here would be cherishing their Aquarian male. With love, Rohit

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